In a conversation early this morning with a couple of friends, I found myself quoting a saying, a bit of wisdom, that I learned from my father-in-law. I prefaced the statement with the tongue-in-cheek comment, “it’s always difficult for me to admit that I’ve learned something from my father-in-law.”
My friends know my father-in-law, so we had a good chuckle, then I shared the saying. What followed was a wonderful conversation built around that point that blessed me and my friends.
As I contemplated that conversation, and the true love and appreciation I actually have for Dick Dougherty, my father-in-law, I thought of several other things I’ve learned from him that are worth acknowledging, at least this one time, for the record.
So, here are a few of the many things I’ve learned from Richard Kent Dougherty, the father of my wife, the grandfather of my children, and my friend:
- “Ministry comes from the overflow.”
- “Be careful where you stand, lest you fall.”
- “Poor people have poor ways.” (Usually followed by some activity involving duct tape.)
- Never stop learning, and re-examining the things you think you know.
- If you’re blessed with having people to love, tell them that you do.
- Fight for principles, and apologize for fighting whenever necessary.
- Grandchildren make good friends.
- Nonsense rhymes are a great way to make a lasting impression on your family: “He’s been workin’ like a perkin!” “She’s my little helper schnelper.” “I was sleepin’ like a peepin.”
- Remembering scripture, and taking it to heart, is probably the best way to prepare for whatever life will throw your way.
- Having a daughter grow up, get married, and move away, is a bittersweet experience, but there are few things sweeter than having her move back and become one of your best friends for life.
Thanks, Dick! I love you, too.
In honor of this made-up day, father-in-law appreciation day, if any of you have a father-in-law whom you’re learning to appreciate, please share.